I was wondering if you would like to be featured in it?

Let me know if you’re interested and I’ll put you on my list of single parents blogs.

What would you like to see on a single parents networking site?

Thanks a million!

Single Mama

Dr. Leah - I know, wondered the same thing. In the end, it is a convenient excuse for someone to book, or not to make a move in the first place. But it’s crazy-making thinking about someone else’s unspoken motivations - aaaaarrrrggghhh.

the Exception - I know, I’m a huge romantic at heart, plus a sucker for a good story. Thanks for visiting, by the way!

Cat - I so relate to that. As a young woman I always was a chameleon and tried to become what everyone else, men and women, wanted me to be. This whole experience is so much about honesty, clarity, and intentionality, so much more than it is about rejection.

T - thank you so much! It IS a good reminder that I can and do connect with guys in wonderful ways. Much better than the alternative: not connecting to anyone at all!

SMS - I know! Have to laugh, soul sister
Yes, this lesson definitely has taught me to be up front about single mom status. I usually am, and this is the one time I was not. Although he basically found out on the first phone call, before we met, so I didn’t let much grass grow under that situation. Here’s to seeing ourselves and being seen as superheroes!

Dad’s - wow, that is a refreshing perspective. Maybe it is possible, who knows? I am open - in the era of Obama, it feels like anything can happen.

CME - thank you for visiting! It is a good reminder that I am always taken care of, even when things feel so out of control and scary.

My first serious post-divorce girlfriend swore she’d never date a single dad. She and I spent a few months together getting to know each other - at that point, she wanted to meet my kids.

Maybe if this guy simply got to know you, no instant-family pressure, he’d get pulled in. Or at least be a friend.

I know we all want to find our ideal partner, and know someone has the potential to fill that role, from the first date. But sometimes life doesn’t work like that.

I’m sitting here with a big smile because it’s a relief to read a post like this, which I have written in my head so many times… Although I really know that it hurts. I do.

Big hug.

In the past month, I’ve had two experiences like this. Although, amazingly, they were both with single dads!

I really want to write to them and ask, “Why?”

But your post reminds me: It’s not about you.

As “T” says, this was a big step: you connected with a man, you opened up.

Next time, he will be honest and bolder. He will see you as the superhero that you are.

P.S. My first line in my profile says that I’m a single mom. I give no details about my kid, other than to add that I’m very proud of being a parent… I really encourage single parents to be honest.

I do appreciate that MTM was honest and friendly enough, as ugly as it may appear, to tell you that the total package is not what he wants.

The good thing is, you do know that you can connect with someone amazing. Maybe this one didn’t fit but if it happened once, it will certainly happen again.

it’s not fun what you went through with the bus dude, it may not be *all* good, but i think that there is plenty of good in this experience. this kind of communication (”i want, i feel”, etc.) is good. truth and clarity are good. accepting what is, is good. walking away from manipulation is good. refusing to be less than everything you are is good.

and you don’t want to subject DS to someone who is ambivalent about kids. i feel like if a romantic interest is going to be interacting w/ DS, he needs to be rock solid in his belief that DS is a great part of your “package.” i’d say thank god that bus guy let you know that he’s not.

he sounds like a nice guy who clicks with you a lot… and he just ins’t ready for kids or something like that. I am glad that he was upfront about it… and that you didn’t hide your mom status. Honesty is awesome.

No matter what, it still hurts. So sorry.