Comments on: Instant Karma. http://mamadharma.net/2009/01/instant-karma/ one single mother. one spririted preschooler. oy -- what a life. Tue, 07 Feb 2012 10:47:46 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: Shalet http://mamadharma.net/2009/01/instant-karma/#comment-782 Shalet Wed, 11 Feb 2009 06:46:11 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=502#comment-782 I am married. Been married for nearly 15-years and I still long for someone to take care of me. The thing is -- that's not what marriage is about. It's about the give and take. No matter married or divorce Mama has to take care of business! What I'd really like it to be a kid again. I 'spose there's always old age ... diapers and spoon feeding here I come! I am married. Been married for nearly 15-years and I still long for someone to take care of me. The thing is — that’s not what marriage is about. It’s about the give and take. No matter married or divorce Mama has to take care of business!

What I’d really like it to be a kid again. I ’spose there’s always old age … diapers and spoon feeding here I come!

]]> By: embarrassednottoknow http://mamadharma.net/2009/01/instant-karma/#comment-765 embarrassednottoknow Fri, 06 Feb 2009 02:39:25 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=502#comment-765 Boy, I feel clueless. I don't know what FWB or NSA mean. Boy, I feel clueless. I don’t know what FWB or NSA mean.

]]> By: dadshouse http://mamadharma.net/2009/01/instant-karma/#comment-756 dadshouse Thu, 29 Jan 2009 21:24:21 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=502#comment-756 I think you're doing great. Love the self awareness - you are a fabulous role model for single parents in that respect! As for FWB... it's tricky. I had a lover over the past year, but she and I dated a year before that, so there was built-in connection, respect, etc. Just meeting someone regularly for sex is doable, and I've done it, but it's not the same as FWB. Just be true to yourself. If something feels right, do it. If not, don't. And play safe!!!!!!!!! I think you’re doing great. Love the self awareness - you are a fabulous role model for single parents in that respect! As for FWB… it’s tricky. I had a lover over the past year, but she and I dated a year before that, so there was built-in connection, respect, etc. Just meeting someone regularly for sex is doable, and I’ve done it, but it’s not the same as FWB. Just be true to yourself. If something feels right, do it. If not, don’t. And play safe!!!!!!!!!

]]> By: junctionmama http://mamadharma.net/2009/01/instant-karma/#comment-755 junctionmama Thu, 29 Jan 2009 19:49:17 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=502#comment-755 i love the way you write! as a newly separated single mom, i know exactly how you feel, especially with the karma thing. at first things were pretty ugly between t and i, now it's been a few months and i've been trying to be nice to him, respectful actually, and i'm getting a lot in return. and i totally know how you feel about putting the garbage out, and having to do little things on your own . dating, i can't even wrap my head around that one yet. good luck! i love the way you write! as a newly separated single mom, i know exactly how you feel, especially with the karma thing. at first things were pretty ugly between t and i, now it’s been a few months and i’ve been trying to be nice to him, respectful actually, and i’m getting a lot in return. and i totally know how you feel about putting the garbage out, and having to do little things on your own . dating, i can’t even wrap my head around that one yet. good luck!

]]> By: debra http://mamadharma.net/2009/01/instant-karma/#comment-749 debra Wed, 28 Jan 2009 23:05:15 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=502#comment-749 Thanks for sharing the driveway shovelling story...I will keep it in the back of my mind for those moments I need a little reassurance. I think we've all had those moments, where if someone where looking in on us, they'd wonder how we get through the day, but, we do it, exactly like shoveling your driveway. I started reading T's blog about the time she wrote about sitting in the middle of the garage to figure out the lawnmower! I remembered thinking that I needed to enjoy the pride I felt everytime I tackled what had once been the 'man jobs' around my house and in my life. The little stuff, like remembering to take out the garbage, recycling and yard waste every week, cleaning the gutters, fixing a broken window pane, and my greatest 'guy' accomplishment so far....helping my son build his PineWood derby car for cub scouts! A true SuperMom moment! That said, do I wish there was someone to share these tasks, and life in general with? Absolutely. But until then, I'll do them, and when I find the man who will do them for me, he's going to be mighty surprised how grateful I am when he does something simple like take out the trash! Thanks for sharing the driveway shovelling story…I will keep it in the back of my mind for those moments I need a little reassurance. I think we’ve all had those moments, where if someone where looking in on us, they’d wonder how we get through the day, but, we do it, exactly like shoveling your driveway. I started reading T’s blog about the time she wrote about sitting in the middle of the garage to figure out the lawnmower! I remembered thinking that I needed to enjoy the pride I felt everytime I tackled what had once been the ‘man jobs’ around my house and in my life. The little stuff, like remembering to take out the garbage, recycling and yard waste every week, cleaning the gutters, fixing a broken window pane, and my greatest ‘guy’ accomplishment so far….helping my son build his PineWood derby car for cub scouts! A true SuperMom moment!

That said, do I wish there was someone to share these tasks, and life in general with? Absolutely. But until then, I’ll do them, and when I find the man who will do them for me, he’s going to be mighty surprised how grateful I am when he does something simple like take out the trash!

]]> By: T http://mamadharma.net/2009/01/instant-karma/#comment-748 T Wed, 28 Jan 2009 19:51:26 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=502#comment-748 Self-confidence - that's hot. Compassion - that's hot. Being able to give love with no expectations - that's hot. Feeling empowered (it happened to me when I mowed my lawn last summer) - that's hot. Realizing that you still want more and accepting that about yourself - that's sizzlin'. Courageously fulfilling your own needs and facing the fear that comes with it - that's muy caliente. You're en fuego, girl. And don't you forget it. Self-confidence - that’s hot.

Compassion - that’s hot.

Being able to give love with no expectations - that’s hot.

Feeling empowered (it happened to me when I mowed my lawn last summer) - that’s hot.

Realizing that you still want more and accepting that about yourself - that’s sizzlin’.

Courageously fulfilling your own needs and facing the fear that comes with it - that’s muy caliente.

You’re en fuego, girl. And don’t you forget it.

]]> By: Karen Maezen Miller http://mamadharma.net/2009/01/instant-karma/#comment-747 Karen Maezen Miller Wed, 28 Jan 2009 18:07:55 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=502#comment-747 You're not caught, you're not caught. You're as free as a snow shovel! Only when you start thinking are you caught. Read this post and you can see the precise moment you snag. Then just shovel yourself back out. You’re not caught, you’re not caught. You’re as free as a snow shovel! Only when you start thinking are you caught. Read this post and you can see the precise moment you snag. Then just shovel yourself back out.

]]> By: Dr. Leah www.singlemommyhood.com http://mamadharma.net/2009/01/instant-karma/#comment-745 Dr. Leah www.singlemommyhood.com Wed, 28 Jan 2009 15:11:12 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=502#comment-745 You are opening so many options when you "take care of your own business". You so deserve love with that special someone. I feel confident that he's in your (immediate) future. You are opening so many options when you “take care of your own business”. You so deserve love with that special someone.

I feel confident that he’s in your (immediate) future.

]]> By: MindyMom http://mamadharma.net/2009/01/instant-karma/#comment-744 MindyMom Wed, 28 Jan 2009 14:02:46 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=502#comment-744 Great job with the instant karma! I've had a little myself lately and it is a great feeling. Doing those "dude jobs" yourself is liberating and empowering. It's good for the soul. You can do it without a man yet you want one. I get it. FWB never worked for me; someone got hurt. I miss being in love but can wait until I find it. Oh and I'm adding you to my blogroll finally! Great job with the instant karma! I’ve had a little myself lately and it is a great feeling.

Doing those “dude jobs” yourself is liberating and empowering. It’s good for the soul. You can do it without a man yet you want one. I get it. FWB never worked for me; someone got hurt.

I miss being in love but can wait until I find it.

Oh and I’m adding you to my blogroll finally!

]]> By: won http://mamadharma.net/2009/01/instant-karma/#comment-743 won Wed, 28 Jan 2009 13:00:04 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=502#comment-743 You wrote: Can I actually sleep with someone and not get attached? My "problem" is the opposite. Sometimes. I wish I could not be attached and just sleep with someone. I wish I had the gumption to put out the feelers you have and proceed - instead of denying it. Good luck, and I hope you choose to share what happens with us in cyberspace. You wrote:

Can I actually sleep with someone and not get attached?

My “problem” is the opposite. Sometimes. I wish I could not be attached and just sleep with someone.

I wish I had the gumption to put out the feelers you have and proceed - instead of denying it.

Good luck, and I hope you choose to share what happens with us in cyberspace.

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